Confident Women: Marissa Batty
Marissa is a virtual assistant specialising in copywriting, social media and marketing. Her business is The Savvy Assistant. Marissa is a self-confessed caffeine addict by day, wine enthusiast by night and a sometimes fitness fanatic. When she’s not busy being savvy, she’s busy chasing the cheeky and charming men in her life, Adam (husband) & Oliver (son, 2 1/2)
What does confidence mean to you?
For me, confidence means the ability to love and accept yourself, no matter what! This means accepting yourself when you have a set back, high fiving yourself when you smash something out of the park, and everything in between.
Where did you learn how to be confident, or how are you learning now?
This has been a long long road for me. I’ve struggled with self-belief and confidence my whole life. Lets just say, I didn’t have many cheerleaders in my corner growing up and this has really affected my ability to believe in myself and see my worth.
I think the beauty in getting older is that I no longer place my self worth on how others perceive me. I’ve now realised that I am in charge of my own destiny and only I can be in charge of how I feel which is a truly wonderful thing.
For some women, confidence is a natural state of mind, while others like me really have to work at it. I’m totally at peace with this now and really make an effort to give myself pep talks when I need a kick up the bum.
What do you think makes it difficult for women to love themselves and own who they are?
Honestly? I think we put too much emphasis on what needs improvement rather than stopping to celebrate ourselves. Wouldn’t it be great if we could say, “look at my va-va-voom curvalicious booty!” rather than “Man, my jeans won’t do up!”
Imagine what an impact that could have on our mindset!
I also think it’s the pressure. The pressure to be mother earth while being a girl boss, fitspo queen and domestic goddess is overwhelming.
Sometimes I’m mother earth (sort of) and sometimes I slay it as a girl boss, I’m NEVER a domestic goddess and I’m rarely a fitspo queen (as much as I’d like to be!) I think accepting we can’t be everything at once would really alleviate that pressure.
What challenges do you face that dampens your confident levels?
Generally not feeling I’m enough is my biggest challenge. I wear so many hats, mother, girl boss, wife, friend, sister…just to name a few! I struggle to do it all seamlessly and I often feel my confidence takes a hit when something doesn’t go the way I’d hoped.
Who is the most confident person in your life and what qualities do they have?
That would have to be my sister in law Ella. She is a fellow biz mum who really rocks at life. She is unapologetically herself. She goes after what she wants with gusto. She is kind and generous BUT (this is my favourite thing about her) she is FIERCE when she has to be! She doesn’t stand by and watch if someone needs help. She steps up every single time.
Her generous spirit is something I really admire.
When do you feel your most confident, powerful, or beautiful?
I feel really confident when I rock at my job and produce outstanding results for my clients. It’s such a thrill seeing their businesses soar as a result of my hard work.
I feel beautiful when my darling son proclaims “Mumma Pretty!” I may have trained him to say it (ha ha) but hey, it does the trick!
I feel powerful after I’ve worked hard at the gym – something about post exercise endorphins really works wonders.
Do you have any quick confidence tips when you want to boost your self-esteem?
Treat yo self! If I’m feeling particularly ‘blah’, I take some time out and do something I enjoy. It can be anything, a long walk, a manicure, a dance class or even escaping to a café with a good book. For me, taking time to recharge the batteries is the BEST way to re-gain a bit of confidence and centre myself.
Is there anything else you would like to share or advice for other women who may be struggling with their own confidence and self-worth?
We ALL have something to offer in this life. Be true to yourself about what that is and GO FOR IT! Don’t worry about not being good enough; there are so many talented people out there, if you wait to be the best you will always be waiting.
If you’ve had a bad day and experienced a set back, just remember it’s a learning experience. We’ve all been there and it’s how you move forward that will truly set you apart.
“Sometimes people are beautiful.
Not in looks.
Not in what they say.
Just in what they are.”
– Markus Zuzak, I Am the Messenger