Confident Women: Gemma Fox
Gemma Fox is the owner of two small businesses Blue Daisy Events & Fox Designs. She has a desire to create, design and use her artistic skills in both of her businesses, but most importantly a desire to connect personally with each client she she encounters. She is the Mother of two beautiful girls, alongside her wonderful husband.
What does confidence mean to you?
Confidence to me can mean many things. In my own journey it has been the ability to talk through my self-doubt and fears and really leap into situations without the fear of failure. I used to stop myself from doing things I loved. Also, I didn’t have a voice for myself when I needed it most, and I watched opportunities pass me by. It has taken me some very hard and trying situations to realize the power I had within me. That power was a strong confident woman who had to make decisions for not only herself, and her business, but most importantly my wonderful family.
I believe this part of confidence is always growing for me and it is one of the many things I really love getting to know about myself. After making hard decisions, standing up for my rights and beliefs, talking to a crowd, or leaving a nerve wracking meeting I can truly feel the fire fuel my confidence each step of the way. I always have to do a big “YOU GO GIRL!!”.
Where did you learn to be confident, or how are you learning now?
I think confidence is an ever growing attribute that we all have to work on within ourselves. In simple terms I think it is always a work in progress. As I said before it took me some very abrupt situations to realize that I had to make a change for me. I wasn’t truly happy with where I was, and who I was allowing other people make me become. I had to really sit back and learn about me, what my beliefs were, and who it was hiding under the distant “me”.
One step in front of the other I made decisions that I wholeheartedly knew I wanted, or needed to make. I found me, and I loved me. However, this doesn’t mean that I am full of confidence and never feel a doubt of worry, or fear. I have many situations, or decisions I have to make that I second guess myself on. But I do know that with each situation I endure I learn and grow. I am confident in the years to come that the fear, and self-doubt will continue to slowly disappear.
What do you think makes it difficult for woman to love themselves and own who they are?
I feel like woman have way too much pressure put on them to wear too many hats. And I feel strongly that we all don’t speak openly enough about the struggles, or challenges we face. We are constantly measuring ourselves against other woman without really knowing what goes on in the background. I have many days that I feel like I have failed at one of my roles whether it be business owner, mother, wife, friend. Or even simple things like the long, giant To-Do list at home. I tend to get wrapped up in thoughts that it all needs to be done and that I am failing if there are things left behind.
However, I love when I do connect with other other mothers or woman who can so graciously admit to their hectic schedules. Like me, them not being able to complete everything day to day gives me the push I need to know that I am doing my best and that is ok. I think it is important for all of us woman to not measure ourselves amongst each other as our roles and demands are constantly changing. We need to normalize the fact that we can’t be superheroes every day, and that’s ok!!
Who is the most confident person in your life, and why?
I have three people who I feel are the most confident in my life, and I look up to tremendously! My amazing husband is number one as he is the walking sign of confidence and I learn so much from him every day. He is a man who knows what he wants and continues to push himself until he gets there but does so with kindness, humility, and tenacity.
My parents are the two I have always looked up to and admired in regards to their confidence. They have run many successful businesses but have also felt the feeling of loss and defeat. They have never given up, and have taken many huge risks and are very successful in their businesses and personal life today. They moved away from family to another country as they knew that life would be greater for their children. There was more opportunity, and a big chance at a better life… now that’s confidence!!
When do you feel you’re most confident, powerful, or beautiful?
When I achieve my dreams and goals big or small 🙂 It’s the most amazing feeling looking back and realizing the struggles you broke through, or the wins along the way with each successful milestone you have completed. I take huge pride in my businesses Blue Daisy Events and Fox Designs. It boosts my confidence with each happy client, and successful event I complete. And yes it may be a cliché but being a mother and wife is where I feel most confident, powerful, and beautiful. My little family is the reason I push myself daily, and they all give me that burning desire for more. I want my daughters to grow with as much confidence and reassurance that who they are is amazing, wonderful, and most importantly enough!
Do you have any quick confidence tips when you want to boost your self- esteem?
Think positive, and act positive! We all have negative thoughts. But when you can work on recognizing your negative thoughts and create positive ones, your thought process slowly changes. I believe this is key to living confidently.
Affirmations- Put them places you can see day to day. If you know you are heading into something that you need a boost to your self-esteem, then read them beforehand.
Most importantly, do things for you!! We ALL need time to re-fuel.
Is there anything else you would like to share or advice for other woman who may be struggling with their own confidence, or self-worth?
So much of our self-doubt comes from the fear of failing, and we have to remember it’s OK to fail. Sometimes failure is where we learn our greatest lessons! Surround yourself with positive, supportive people. And remember to speak kindly to yourself, make yourself your priority 🙂
“I am the me, I choose to be”
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