Confident Women: Bronwyn Delaivuna
Bronwyn Delaivuna is the creator of Indera.Beads. 28 years old, mother to two young spirited boys and wife to an amazing husband. Her business has been her creative outlet and in return has become a full time job. After being a stay at home mother for 3 years she didn’t want to go back to a 9-5 job working for someone else. So she became her own boss! She has always been a creative person and creating something from nothing gives her such a thrill. Although her business is young, we all gotta start somewhere!
What does confidence mean to you?
Confidence to me means having no fear of limits and stepping outside your comfort zone. To be true to yourself and stand up for what you believe in. Confidence is loving yourself 100% and being proud of it.
Where did you learn how to be confident, or how are you learning now?
Both my parents are very strong willed people. I was always taught that when making a decision be confident and don’t shy away if it’s something you’re passionate about. I’d say a lot of my confidence comes from them.
Also, when I was around 19-20 years old I suffered from Agoraphobia. For people that don’t know what this is, it’s a phobia of crowds and anxieties of feeling trapped and not being able to escape situations. Although at times I can still have very mild anxiety, for a good 4-5 years I struggled with this phobia and as a result I had zero confidence. I knew that only I could help myself and tried everything I could to overcome these fears and anxieties. It was not easy and after a year of failed treatments I did 3 months of Hypnosis and I was back on track again and my confidence levels started to appear.
As a child I was the centre stage kid and loved performing in plays and dance concerts so when I was going through these anxieties deep down I knew only I can control the outcome. I had to make the change, and I did. You can learn so much from hard times and this part of my life was a big eye opener! I remember the Hypnotherapist saying to me, ‘Don’t hold back! speak your mind and be true to yourself because if you don’t it will bottle up and that leads to anxieties.’ I learnt to use my voice again and although not everyone is going to agree with your opinion, its still valid. I’m now the most confident I have ever been in my whole life. Its funny how life can throw you lessons that need to be learnt.
What do you think makes it difficult for women to love themselves and own who they are?
Unfortunately the media gives us this idea of what we should all look like. Magazines have the same generic models that all young girls want to be like, I bought those silly magazines when I was a teenager. I remember when I was in high school at such a vulnerable age and was reading all the ‘how to’ articles in gossip magazines. It was hard getting trapped in trying to be someone I wasn’t.
I was brainwashed to think that if I did all these crazy things the articles told me to do that I would be happier, skinnier, prettier and get that man of my dreams. Well that wasn’t the case. But I started loving myself 100% when I realised that everyone is unique. We shouldn’t try to be something we’re not. I think there is nothing more beautiful than a women confident in her own skin.
What challenges do you face that dampens your confident levels?
We all naturally want to be the best at what we do, whether that be at your job, your relationship, being a parent or being a friend! We only want the best in life and so when something doesn’t go to plan and we get set backs, our confident levels drop. For example, we didn’t get the promotion or you have an argument with your partner or your child has a day full of tantrums. It can make us question our ability to handle the situations. But instead of it weighing you down, use the situation as a learning curb as to how you can handle it better next time. We can always learn from our mistakes.
Who is the most confident person in your life and what qualities do they have?
I’m going to have to say my Mum. She is never afraid of a challenge. Those challenges have taken her as far as Afghanistan and East Timor on dangerous jobs in her career. She is constantly on the move and discovering new adventures. My mother is more fit than most people i know (myself included) competing in triathlons at the healthy age of 53! Although she will probably cry reading this she is definitely my inspiration for confidence. She has the go hard or go home attitude and she radiates confidence in all aspects of her life.
When do you feel your most confident, powerful, or beautiful?
I feel most confident and powerful when I am working on my business especially on new projects when connecting with other Biz Mums. I love it when people ask me for advice, I get such a buzz from helping people knowing that they want to know my opinion! It makes me feel so awesome and confident that I’m doing something good enough for people to follow! A confident woman is a beautiful woman.
Do you have any quick confidence tips when you want to boost your self-esteem?
Go for a walk and listen to some awesome fast paced music! When I’m exercising I’m more motivated to get things done instead of pondering on ideas. It’s not only good for your physical health but mental health too. I find the more exercise I do the better work I do on my business. Oh and of course coffee! Haha coffee is always great for a boost.
Is there anything else you would like to share or advice for other women who may be struggling with their own confidence and self-worth?
Only you can create the life you want to live, anything is possible! Everyone starts from the bottom and works their way up. Be confident that it is possible to reach your dreams! You just have to take the first step in making your dreams a reality.
‘The best way to predict your future is to create it.’
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