5 ways to have balance as a busy mum
Guest Post by Rachel Allan, marketing consultant, author and mum.
Have you ever had that moment in time where everything feels under control? Your work to-do list is manageable. Your house is clean and there is food in the cupboards. You feel healthy and relaxed. Your children are happy. Your world is balanced.
It feels nice. You wonder how you could have your life feeling like this for most of the time. If you have experienced this, ask yourself what you needed to do to make life feel this way. More importantly what do you need to do to keep it that way.
If you are like many mums and since having children you have never felt totally in control. You have come to realise that balance for you will only happen after your children are adults.
It took me two years to realise I didn’t need to live in the pressure cooker, of feeling out of control. Stressing every day about food, money, work, being a mum and not even thinking about looking after myself.
Life just doesn’t have to be that way.
Here are 5 ways I create balance as a busy mum:
1) Have systems in place
Having system in place can be incredibly helpful, especially in the house. I do not enjoy cleaning, cooking and the daily boring household tasks. I do enjoy a clean house, clothes to wear and food to eat. So, I created systems. I set-up cleaning checklists for each room. I bought a bigger washing machine and a clothes line with a cover. Also, I plan my meals and shopping once a month. Grocery shop once a fortnight, fresh foods weekly, and a big cook-up on a Sunday.
2) Schedule in everything
I schedule everything! Tasks I complete daily. Appointments. School holidays, long weekends, pupil free days. Every person in our house has their own google calendar which we all share so we can see what everyone is doing! I also run a task list (I have a manual one and use an app) for those small tasks or when the deadline is in the future. I can then schedule time based on the needs of my business.
3) Delegate or Automate
I operate effectively four businesses. I have learned to automate as many processes I can – working on the theory if you repeat it then automate or outsource. Additionally, I have virtual administrators who help with specific tasks. There is no possible way I can do everything I need to and keep my sanity.
4) Have dedicated work time
This is easy if you have a job and go to an office. You will find care for your children. If you work from home or run your own business, you may think you can work around your children. You will soon find this just doesn’t work. You will spend more time telling your children to leave you alone, getting frustrated at them and putting them in front of the TV than getting real work done. Get care for your children, swap with a friend, ask a relative, family day care or child care centres are all great places for your child to go to socialise and learn. Use that time smartly and do the tasks that you need to focus on.
5) Let go of the guilt
Let go, just stop it. Don’t go there. Stop comparing yourself to others or letting others judge your decisions. If your children are happy and healthy that is all that matters. Think of the big picture – why are you doing what you are you doing?
These tips will take time to create and make part of your life. Isn’t it better you are moving towards balance than staying where you are today? Remain focused, believe balance can be found and moves forward confidently into the new you.
Once you start controlling your life you will be able to make decisions and choices around how you spend your time – you will even find little bits of time for yourself.
Due to the changing nature of life, your children and business, achieving balance is not consistent. Some days as hard as you try it will just not work, just press reset and start again. The only time for concern is when you can’t set reset or you can’t see an end to the ‘thing’ which is causing pressure.
Remember to breath, be present with your children, focused on your work. Enjoy life. Understand why you are doing this. Focus on the big things and let the small things look after themselves!
Our Confident Life Contributor
Rachel Allan has been a business owner for 12 years, and a mum for 5½ years. On her business-and-baby journey she has learned a lot about life, business and herself. While it has not always been an easy ride, it has definitely been fulfilling. She feels a strong calling to share her discoveries (and the wisdom of other parents and experts) with you in this new book, When Business Meets Baby.
Rachel’s inspiration is vibrant 5½-year-old daughter Sophie, who has her own busy little life with school, dancing and swimming. Rachel is honoured to be Sophie’s mum, and she is also an author, integrated marketer, entrepreneur and property investor. From 2007 she has shared her journey with her business and life partner Craig.
Be the strong, empowered woman who grew and birthed a baby. Be the brave woman who took a leap of faith and started a business. Allow balance into your life. Allow joy and happiness. See how success will follow.
If you would like to discover more about Rachel and the services she offers, visit her at www.rachelallan.com.au.